as i enter the zone of arranged marriages, i once again wonder about the nature of love. what is it and is it really that important? how do you know you are in love? when does that moment of inspiration hit when you realise that htis is the person you want to spend the rest of your life? is it a moment of realisation or is a slow gradual awareness? is there something called a soulmate? is there something such as love at first sight? can you fall out of love... or does that mean you were never really in love? can you be in love more than once? can you fool yourself about being in love? how do you know you are in love... and is it true that if you have to question it its not really love? i invite all those people who are in love or have ever been in love to answer these questions.
when one is young you believe in fairy tales and love at first sight and your knight in shining armour. girls read all those bs romance novels where the girl and guy meet and one week later they decide to get married. experience and reality teach you that all that is crap and its about love at first sight (or within a week) but it happens when you really get to know someone. and over time you figure out if you want to spend your life with someone. you spend your late teens and early twenties through a lot of hard lesson, unlearning all this romance novel/ movie nonsense about love. and then you hit 25 (and 7 months) and you are expected to through out all those hard earned lessons and swallow that "you should know within meeting a few times if you want to spend the rest of your life with someone". that is essentially what arranged marriage asks you to do. see, meet, talk, decide. geez.... i take more time to decide what shoes i want and that committement only lasts a year, two at the most! and here one is expected to make a life time committement based on talking on the phone (4 times) , meeting a few times (3 to be exact), and a short 2 weeks! 4... 3... 2.... 1 person all your life!
4 comments:
i m amazed, nobody answered your questions.
love, in a word, is immortal. when you spend a specific period of your life with them is when you know you want to spend the rest of your life with them. a moment of realisation, after slow gradual awareness. there is something called soulmate def. when you fall out of love it means you never really were. you cant fall in love helplessly twice. people can fool themselves about being in love. when love happens you just know you re in love (as cliched as it may sound).
but you answered your question the best, "it happens when you really get to know someone. and over time you figure out if you want to spend your life with someone".
i never really got to know the process of arrange marriages. it should be banned or something? yes? :\
i dont think too many people read my blog! but thanks for your response! what you said makes a lot of sense. i guess the next question is that is everyone destined to find that one true love? or are only a select few lucky enough for that and the rest of us just make do with something resembling love?
"i dont think too many people read my blog!" dont fool yourself. i m an avid reader of your blog and you never knew uptil now. think about all the other secret admirers :p
heh, i dont know what everyones destiny holds for em. nobody knows they were destined to get a car (until they finally get it). if they dont get one, they crave for it. i guess thats the case with love too.
>"i dont think too many people read my blog!" dont fool yourself.
hehe... ok correction... not too many people comment on my blog :)
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